Ah, self-sabotage—the quiet, deep-seated foe of our pleasure.
It’s the things that are sh*tty do and also the responses we’ve that stem from underlying…yeah, you guessed it: injury. We’re subconsciously attempting to protect ourselves from something, also it leads to a frozen “deer-in-the-headlights†mindset or an extreme, polarizing effect.
The difficult thing is that individuals typically don’t actually realize why we do (or don’t do) these exact things until we, “Sit within the yuck,†as my brilliant coworker and friend, Nicole, claims in her very own own article.
Frequently, self-sabotage is coming from a location of real and/or emotional insecurity. (Say hello to your effective yet fallible human-ness!) We essentially put up our personal land that is little in your relationships due to our pain—romantic or elsewhere.
I do believe it occurs more often with household and romantic partners because, for a easy level, they’re apt to be around us more, and we’re more comfortable with them—they’re within the type of fire, as we say.
I composed an item recently that contemplated the “why†behind our coping mechanisms, and I also think this is certainly an excellent follow through on it. Continue reading “Just just How Trauma & Insecurity causes us to Sabotage a Relationship.”